Have questions you want to ask your massage therapist but are too embarrassed to ask them?
The Questions You’re Too Embarrassed to Ask Your Massage Therapist
So, you’re sitting in the spa waiting room, and the thought of the lovely massage you have been looking forward to all week suddenly gives way to a whole host of questions. If it’s your first massage, you might be apprehensive, but there’s no need to be.
Although there’s really no such thing as a silly question, we’ve answered some frequent questions for you right here.
Is This A Legitimate Massage Centre or Spa?
Massage parlors – the type that offers erotic massage – are not obviously seedy. Sometimes you need to ask a few well-chosen questions to ensure that your massage is all you expect it to be … and no more! Those questions are:
Do you offer therapeutic massage?
Is the massage therapist certified or licensed?
Do you need me to complete a client health questionnaire?
Three yesses, and you shouldn’t get any uncomfortable surprises.
Will I Have to Take Everything Off?
Not if you don’t want to, although many massage enthusiasts like to have their treatments naked. It’s entirely up to you. Some therapies like reflexology, Reiki, or Indian Head Massage are fully clothed.
If you’d prefer to keep your underwear on during a massage, that’s fine. Don’t wear your favorite smalls, though, as they might get massage oil on them (although your therapist will be as careful as possible.) Tight-fitting underwear can get in the way if you have a lower back massage, but a thong or loose undies that can be moved around will be fine.
Even if you decide to go as nature intended for your massage, we’ll still only see the area we’re working on, and your modesty will always be adequately covered with a towel or sheet.
What If I Drool or Get An Erection?
Your therapist will consider it a compliment if you doze off during a massage, and if you’re lying face down, it’s not unusual to drool. Just ask for a tissue, and nobody will bat an eyelid.
Some men avoid worry that they’ll get an erection during a massage – it happens. Men will quite often get an erection during a non-sexual massage because the gentle therapeutic touch can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, leading to a partial or complete erection.
Don’t be embarrassed; it’s happened before, and an experienced therapist will just ignore it.
Should I Talk During A Massage?
It’s totally up to you! If you only want to close your eyes and drift away, just go right ahead. Some types of massage, like sports or deep tissue/detox massage, might require more feedback because when the therapist gets deep into your muscle knots, they’ll need to ensure it’s not uncomfortable.
Don’t be afraid to tell us if:
It hurts - anywhere.
You’re too hot or cold.
You have any questions.
You need to tell us something health-related.
I’m Worried About My Body and That I’ll Feel Self-Conscious
Massage therapists are like doctors in seeing bodies of all shapes and sizes. We can all feel self-conscious sometimes, but don’t let that get in the way of a good massage! If you’re really worried, by all means, ask the therapist to avoid the area. You might find that you get so relaxed during your massage that you stop caring…
You could also choose a clothed massage like Shiatsu or Thai.
Can I See A Female Therapist?
Of course, you can. Some people have reasons for preferring a therapist of the opposite (or the same gender), and we promise not to judge you. Though, there’s nothing to worry about in having a massage with a male therapist. Men – if you’re worried about unintended erections, see above. Women – there’s really no need to feel intimidated by a male massage therapist. You might even enjoy it!
If you’re concerned, you can always ask to meet your therapist before the session.
Should I Tip?
There are no hard and fast rules unless you’re in a hotel or spa, where you’re expected to tip 15-20% if you’ve enjoyed your massage. Most holistic therapy and massage centers would encourage a tip for an excellent treatment. In a medical clinic, some people don’t think it’s appropriate to tip, but it’s up to you. You can always ask if therapists accept tips when you book.
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